My name is Koty, and I’m asking for help to be able to give my mom a good proper funeral! My mom has been through a lot in life and struggled with her own demons for many, many years. But thankfully, over the last 8 years, she has gotten sober and been able to finally play a role in her children’s and grandchildren’s lives to the best of her ability while slowly regaining trust and making amends!
Almost 2 years ago, she was diagnosed with terminal cancer, and still, she underwent every treatment she was eligible for in hopes of extending the time left on the ever-present, loudly ticking clock counting down the time we had left with her! She endured all that pain and suffering of some very extensive and extreme chemo and radiation in hopes of being able to add one more day to her life, if for nothing else, just to be able to hopefully make up for something she wasn’t there for as her kids grew up or to possibly make a new good core memory to replace one of the bad ones that come to mind randomly when we think of our mom!
She truly has changed, and I want so bad to be able to put her to rest in an actual grave and decent casket with a headstone with her name on it and remarks that will forever memorialize her as being a wonderful mother and grandmother who went to every possible extreme to stay with us and give us the experience of having a great mother and grandmother!
Unfortunately, the day before Mother’s Day, she was hospitalized at MUSC and has remained there since. Over the last 1.5 weeks, she has gone down very fast, and it’s apparent now she won’t be coming home again. I expect that within the next 1-2 weeks, she will have passed on because she is no longer able to verbally communicate and unable to eat or drink anymore without it being forced down her throat.
I know it’s a lot to ask for help from the kindness of total strangers, but I have spent the last few years doing everything I can to help any person I meet or come across if they need the help! That means stopping to check on every person I see broken down or with a flat tire; if there is something I can do, I do it every time!
I would be able to cover this myself, but I have been repairing and renovating the home of a woman I met almost a year ago because her home was falling apart around her and her two children, and she had no way of paying someone to come do any of the things immediately necessary! I learned her story and met her children, twins who will be 13 this year! One of them has cerebral palsy. All of my money has gone into purchasing everything that’s gone into getting her home livable and comfortable for her and her children! So, I’m begging for any help that you guys can give me.